Black Heart's on Valentine's Day

If you hate Valentine's Day.. obviously you are not alone. With the invention of "Singles Awareness Day" it is apparent that haters are running rampant and they are fighting to be noticed on this holiday, and day of love and pink. One thing I feel as though we should all keep in mind.. at times even though this holiday can been cheesy and irritating, BUT sometimes a bitter, self-absorbed, man-hating woman can be even worse. MUCH MUCH worse. Even so, for this first part of the entry I will indulge the bitter, sad, lonely woman that can come out in us all.

Reason's It might be OKAY to hate VDAY:

FOR GIRLS

1 You can’t moan about it. If you’re single, you sound like a dried-up old spinster; if you’re in a relationship, everyone assumes you’ve hit a rough patch.

2 There is nothing more disappointing than a man you’d previously earmarked as husband material expressing his romantic intent with his hatred of the day and rubbing it in your face the whole time.

3 With the stress, all-over body waxing and pressure to out romance everyone else, Valentine’s Day is like a mini-wedding . .. but in February, the dampest, coldest,month. Nobody should be expected to get married in February. And certainly not every year.

4 It produces brain-rottingly awful verse, such as, “How we gain yearly, from the love we share dearly”.

5 All the displays of perfect, flippy-haired coupledom only serve to turbo-charge the sneaking suspicion that everyone else is far more in love than you are.

6 The girl you most dislike will receive the perfect gift and in the normal selfish and ungrateful fashion that "those girls" usually act.. as soon as their guy is out of earshot they will complain, over and over again on how their gift was not good enough.

7 There’s no such thing as a successful Valentine’s Day. Even if you do get a mystery card/gift/bunch of flowers, it will almost certainly be from someone insultingly awful.

8 You become embroiled in competitive dating battles. Okay, so Charlotte in marketing got the most expensive roses, but you got the best restaurant. Aah! Look what you’ve become! Ungrateful.

9 It is very unhealthy. Guys want us to look good, but yet they give us pounds and pounds of candy. Makes sense right?

10 Fluff, Pink, and lace only ever work for three-year-olds and Italian fashion designers.

FOR BOYS

11 It makes you hate your fellow man. You can guarantee all the decent restaurants will be booked up "those guys", leaving the rest of us paying double for horrible food in a restaurant we hate.

12 It makes men do stupid things, like light candles and stuff.

13 It gets men into trouble when they don’t do stupid things like light candles and stuff. Because, actually, she really wanted you to, but prompting is so unromantic, isn’t it?

14 It’s such a rip-off. With flowers, dinner and cabs, you’re looking at a hundred quid minimum. Wouldn’t she just prefer the cash instead?

15 In new relationships, whether or not you take her out or buy her a gift speaks volumes about “where you’re at”, way before you’re ready for the “are we having a relationship?” chat. (Like you were ever ready for it anyway.)

16 . Is it the right gift? The wrong gift? Too cheap? Too much? AHHHHHH

17 Valentine’s Day focuses her mind, and you feel as sick as a dog every time there’s a lull in the conversation.

18 Isn’t one compulsory annual shopping event enough? Christmas is just about excusable. No such luck on the 14th.

19 Where are the man presents? What do we get out of it?

20 There is nothing more disappointing than a woman you’d previously earmarked as wife material not even laughing at the sheep card.

**So there... some reasons it is okay to hate Valentine's Day. There is also that aching feeling in your heart.... that sad lonely feeling. Either missing the one that got away, or just missing something and someone you wish that you had. Everyone that has been dumped has had that gut wrenching feeling. That feeling that you think will never go away. Of course Valentine's Day just magnifies it. I apologize for this video I am going to post. I know it is Twilight, and I have promised to only discuss this with other Twilight fans, but this is a good, dramatic video. Showing the pain that can happen. The pain of watching month after month go by you, while you are sad and everyone else has moved on. Your friends forgetting about you, losing friends because of a breakup, and not knowing what to do with yourself. Warning.. This is dramatic...

How a girl can feel after a breakup

For those who hate Valentine's Day... I wish that I could help you not be so bitter this year, and realize that you can find joy, and true love elsewhere. Even so, I know better than anyone that sometimes you just need one of those days. One of those bitter, I hate love, singles awareness days. I just hope next year, single, or not, you will come to your senses and realize life, and love is about so much more. But for now, get out your voo-doo doll and your Ben & Jerry's double chocolate fudge and mope a little. :)